well, for some reason i can't seem to upload pictures (what the shit y'all?!), so for now, i leave you with this pondering point:
recently, i talked to my friend who is getting married very very shortly...and he and i talked about the pro's and con's of marriage..and he said "abatement of loneliness" as a major pro...and that got my anti-relationship self thinking: does loneliness cease when one gets married? my conclusion, which i'm sure is wrong, is as follows: being married doesn't mean you're any less alone. i think a relationship can be the most intense form of being alone if you're not careful. friendship is what resolves and mitigates loneliness while not compromising the self in the way that love does--romantic love does.
About Me
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- let us not sugar coat shit: i am a bitch. i say exactly what i think, but never what i feel. i'm a hypocrite, a sweetheart, and a tease. i'm a sarcastic, cynical, blunt cunt of a woman, yet i'm strangely loveable and unfeigned. go figure.
5 comments:
maybe the answer is to be married, but maintain loads of separate time and friends. all that rubbish about absence making the heart grow fonder.....happens to be true. less time with spouse, but of a much higher quality, may well be the deal.
i think the answer is avoid marriage at all costs.
s'my theory and i'm stickin to it!
nope. but i noticed all the psycho bitches who swore they'd get married to a guy after two weeks of knowing them are all getting divorced from said guy!
been married and dont ever want to be again. loneliness can come during marriage trust me. worst part about that is that u can't start dating to try and get the feeling to go away. ur just stuck there with one person and u have to try to work it out. nothing is harder than trying to work out a damn marriage, TRUST ME!!!!
Re: Marriage...Katharine Hepburn, a hottie in her day and probably one hell of a carpet muncher said that "Men and women should not get married. They should buy adjacent houses and visit occasionally."
I think she's got the right idea about relationships in general...gay or straight...married or single...moving in with each other kills the romance.
Familiarity breeds contempt.
ps. I love your blog. Rock on, Elle, rock on!
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