well this is me....trying my hardest to do a "i'm so pissed off" face....but i just look stoned, oily, and retarded....but hey, i've had a few glasses of wine tonight, so back off! anyway...i am a bit irked...miffed....fuckin perturbed....at the fact people love to make assumptions for another person, and act accordingly without ever consulting said "another person". drives me fucking crazy! why do people insist on doing this?example: was talking to a sort of friend...which i guess would make him an acquaintance..whatever! he and i were chit chatting, and naturally the topic of the love life (fyi..mines DOA) came up. i told him about mr. giant, and how i assumed he wouldn't call and it was rather futile for me to make the overtly pathetic gesture of calling him...and my friend got extremely quiet...and really softly, which was weird because he's a loud mother fucker, said "it's always better to speak up, trust me." nosey me, asks why...his reponse? when we first met about a year ago he really really liked me, and was interested in dating me blah blah blah....but he didn't. WHY? because he didnt' want to interefere with my education (yea..because i work so fucking hard at school), and he figured that he would be more of a burden than a benefit seeing as i'm in school and not that into partying all the time. he wasn't sure my parents would ever like him (uhhhhh who cares?), and he felt that because i semble a prissy bitch with my designer shoes/clothes etc...he would never be able to make me happy (just a little reminder...money doesn't make a girl happy..stupid cute things like holding her hand when you go out...that does make us happy...or at least me).... yada yada yada.
i mean it's fine and dandy that he's taking me into consideration, and i realize that's more than most guys do...but isn't it up to me to decide who i date and if i have enough time to date them? i mean..what's left for me to do when my possible suitors are already striking themselves off the list on account of me pursuing higher education, being fortunate enough to have parents who still provide for me during my fun fun education experience, being jewish, etc? furthermore..when does my list of "drawbacks" stop? does it extend to the fact i have a dog and thus can't stay out till 6am...or to the fact i wear contacts? it's outlandish to assume something for someone else without discussing things with them, and it pisses me off to no end when people do this on a large, and small--ie: "oh, we didn't think you wanted the last beer"--scale. why are people so ready to malign themselves and acquiesce to their assumption of what another wants?
then he said the worst thing i've ever been told by a guy: "i just figured you were too good for me"
fantastic. just what i need. fuck me!
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sounds like he still has some maturing to do. once u reach the rank of man, u understand the male duty is to charge up the hill (ie ask the girl out) and let the chips fall where they may. newbie over there has already counted himself out before the op ever got started.
I call them OOMLGs ... Out Of My League Gals ... and there are plenty of them out there.
cuz t-money is right ... it's easier to reject yourself on behalf of the other person than to subject yourself — yet again — to rejection and/or humiliation.
When you get shot down or stabbed in the heart with a dull spoon enough times in a row, you form a hard-candy shell that the owl from the Tootsie Roll commercials couldn't chop through after 1 .. 2 ... 3 licks ...
seriously, just start having sex with girls.
elle! check it out.
I tried dating a girl who was very involved with her college (had designer shoes too) and it was so difficult. I even spent a night teaching her some chemistry just to spend time with her (I guess she aced the test the next day though).
She was very complicated and it was really tough on me to find out where I fit in with her. She had many other guy friends who were interested in her too (at least I thought they were). I eventually found out I needed someone with more time and open feelings. I spent 2 months in pursuit. During this time, I sent 4 bouquets of flowers, several glasses of wine shared, a few dinner dates, movies, swimming together in the lake... much more... all the great things... things which make dreams. It all blew up in my face.
Maybe he has done this before like I did, elle. Tried to date someone like that. Maybe he didn't want to feel bad and realize it might not work. Maybe he wanted to be friends with you to more guarantee you would be around instead of dating and then never being friends with you again.
okay yea..i'm mildly guilty of it too..but the context is completely different: ie. this guy knew me extremely well, i don't know mr giant at all.
would i have dated him? i don't know. kind of had that decision ripped away from me, didn't i?
and unlike the girl you dated bl...i'm a schedulizing whore...and have all my schoolwork done by 8pm at night. do i want to go out and party it up all week? no....but i'm fine with chilling out, playing video games, watching movies etc...and i even have time for it :)
Ok, you are perfect elle. :) so when is a good time for you?
i'm not perfect. i just think it's shitty to reject yourself!
and uhh i will own you at ssx jersey..OWN!
ohhhhhhhhh i'd watch what you say about the Counterstrike....dated a guy who played that like it was his lifeblood....and i could beat him at it.
Scrabble bitch. I'll work you like straight welfare!
time is running out! everyone...
yea.....fuck time.
fuck me losing my headphones and not going to the gym this morning. oops
ooo.. fun game here:
http://www.driftgame.com.au/
car racing/drifting game... fun online
poor elle. :)
what would make you happy elle? just define it for us all. must be the truth...
i love that game bl! hours of entertainment during lecture?
what would make me happy? uhhhh, right now? headphones :)
I didn't say for right now elle! the long run. don't think about short gains...
got a meeting to attend, see you all later. :P
i challenge you jersey.....to makeshift yahoo scrabble: literati!
murph....go get 'em for me then
you had me at "go at it like bunnies"
and believe it or not....a girl with a half a brain can pretty much tell when a guy will say anything to get into her pants.
you aren't fooling anyone.
the shnoz is sponge worthy.
just sayin.
woman knows if she'll fuck you or not.
lines just supplement it.
haha! sponge worthy!
guy was a fucking idiot if he thought he'd tell me that and i'd be like "but i was so into you...really i was!"
he got an "oh. okay...anyway..."
i called mr. giant on sunday
Yeah, that guy would have been an awesomely confident and strong man if you had pursued a relationship. You sure missed out there...
he's a giant...he's 6'7''
no idea how it went. no idea what he's thinking haha
true hedge....very true
he's not a meathead!
he's not even that buff!
morning dude!!
and i'm supposed to be jersey's suger momma murph.
LOVE tall guys
i'm like 5'8'' according to my last doc visit.
i've never played trivial pursuit..
and how do you know this guy is dumb?
you heard his voicemail jersey! hahaha
so i have to date one of y'all?
i mean he's dumb for not calling me back...but hey haha :)
ohio=boring. gorgeous weather today though.
fall does rock!
nope never been to MOA
i'm not a big shopper actually.
Vermont: alpine slides!!
what's pot?
i bought the shoes in 5 minutes!
oh. fuck. want a hit jersey?
dude...get seth in on the love
nope hasn't called me back yet allison haha
fuck the hunkles.....i so spelled that wrong...i know i did hha
i don't really care haha, i did my part :) august is rejection month...got it.
murph---swingers, awesome movie. swingers-horrible dating tip movie.
i have a milkshake? no wonder i feel like puking this morning.
jersey...fine. lets go to vegas and get married already then.
+20 for using the word saucy and making me spit up my water
it's water..not jizz!!
dude..no more comments on your page?
just was wondering if my comp was fucking up....
got a new external harddrive..so things are kinda weird for me at he mo'
jersey....he does my pr. :)
no sorry..was just checking dude.
meatheads are hot :)
hahaha that was funny jersey :)
and the gutter award goes to?!!
JERSEY!!
ummmm my office?
*looks around her apartment*.....
no...no hot guys.....no office.....really cute stuffed animals
do you believe in the whole a-game thing?
if so, how do you rate this guys game?
ok Elle, tomorrow I want to see a blog about how hot you are and how guys would love to get to know you
I honestly think you need to throw up a personal ad and link to your blog on it, smart, funny and ambitious women are a hot comodity at least where I come from so I can't really see where the dating problems come from... maybe you are looking in the wrong places?
Looks aren't an issue because you're hot... so what's the problem? Just moronic men?
elle and others here, I have a similar topic I would like input if you have time.
I need some input on "first dates". Stop by my blog and tell me what you think and voice your opinion (any tips too). :) Thanks!
Then come back to elles kinky blog here and continue. :) hahaha...
me? hot? snarf.
i don't know what the issue is...but this is amusing the shit out of me. i feel like the dude and i are like a season of sex in the city.
post away mpls. post away.
i'm jewish. my parents require my bro and i to be on the jewish dating website. it's haggard. only met two people from it though, and i'm friends with them.
murph: you hit the nail on the head. props.
goddamn it!
you say that before i put on mascara!
game is gay.
never gone for a guy that supposedly had it..because they come off as egotistical fuckers. be you, it works better. guaranteed.
priceless cause it will never happen Ed haha
seeing me sans mascara isn't a huge deal.
seeing me on a date with a 5'3'' jewish kid who thinks he knows everything? NO FUCKIN WAY!
and damnit....my video's are fucked up again!
you aren't offeded murph. remember....i let you touch me hiney.
can he at least have a hubcap...like....an '83 toyota tercel hubcap....hanging from his neck?
about me? i'm boring. that about sums it up
naw murph...i thought you were pretty sober..although you did sign over all your assets to me...so maybe you were a lil fucke dup.
FIAT!!
murph--gimme the time and place
dude: i don't do anything..that's why i'm boring.
jersey: see. might have to enlist meathead to protect me :)
i'm going to kick jersey's ass!
pass the bw3's...got the hot thai sauce?
i like that idea murph
toned it down? PUSSY!
did work.
now i'm back to lowly student status
oh!! party for jersey!!
in real life im pretty boring.
in grand theft auto, i beat hookers, drive fast cards and blew up the mafia.
but noones gots to know about it. so shhhh.
anyone need anythign from chez target?
Stupid assumptions and stupid protection. Never gets us anywhere if we gotta pretend all the time that we're not needy. LOL. Nice pic L.
this blog is like a vegas casino.
once you enter, everything is stacked so you cant leave.
;)
WHO WANTS SOME FLAPJACKS RIGHT NOW
my pho didn't come with chop sticks
I love Flapjacks!
i'm.....i....
i don't know!
fork and spoon..but it feels so wrong.
IHOP..have i been to an IHOP? i think just OHOP
ohhhhh! that's where we went in the mornings after our parties eh?
thought it was an OHOP. whatever..same shit
thanks.
make sure to put that shameless ploy in there a little more obviously next time
you eat pho with chopsticks?
that is swanktastic!
so you going to introduce us to any jew food or what? inquiring tongues want to know!
jew food?
JERSEY!!!!!! i will miss you *sniffle*
i am under impression that the israelis have their own cuisine? an israeli specialty?
its kind of funny because i've known several israelis and i have no recollection of what they ate. :(
israeli food is just middle eastern food dude....
bye doug *sniffle*
slurp some pho for me then.
slurppp it, grrl!
okay i've been reading the comments for an hour and i'm not even halfway through.. yeesh!
anyway... morning kids..
your face is not symmetrical
yada...yada...yada...bitch...bitch...bitch...cute, but so angry...ur better off without the dude anyway...get back to ur studies!!!
"I just figured you were too good for me."
I haven't heard of someone using that line in a long time.
Shit, they're all lines.
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